Three’s a crowd (Image: Metro.co.uk/ Getty)
One-night stands may be thrilling. That’s, if you happen to’re not left ‘haunted’ by them.
This week, a 20-year-old reader shares how he lately went house with two girls of their fifties who occur to associates along with his mom.
The large downside? He has a girlfriend, though she doesn’t appear too fussed about the entire thing.
Beneath, he will get some recommendation, however earlier than you go, take a look at final week’s dilemma, the place a reader was apprehensive in regards to the youthful lady his dad ‘fell for’ in Thailand.
Possibly this doesn’t sound like a lot of an issue, however it’s inflicting me sleepless nights. Principally, I had a one-night stand with two older girls, and the considered it’s doing my head in.
I’m a man of 20, and work as a private coach so I’ve an honest physique. I additionally run an old-school cell disco at weekends and get booked by individuals who love music from the eighties and nineties. Drunk older girls are all the time handing me telephone numbers and soiled invites, however I’ve a gradual girlfriend and simply chortle it off.
A few weeks in the past, two girls of their fifties who’re associates of my mum, requested if I might take them house after a birthday gig. As a result of household connection, it by no means occurred to me that they’d an ulterior motive, and after they invited me in for a drink I stupidly agreed.
They’re each enjoyable to be with and engaging for his or her ages, and let’s simply say issues received a bit out of hand. I knew I used to be doing improper, however intercourse with them each felt thrilling and irresistible, and to be trustworthy, we had a good time.
The subsequent day, I felt filled with regret and thru tears, blurted all of it out to my girlfriend. Amazingly, she forgave me so long as I promise by no means to do something related once more. That ought to make me really feel nice, however as an alternative I really feel haunted by it and don’t assume I deserve her.
I’m unsure why your girlfriend didn’t dump you then and there, however these tears clearly labored in your favour. You’ve been fortunate however you’re proper, if you happen to may be seduced this simply, you in all probability don’t deserve her.
It may very well be that your girlfriend reacted in shock, and as this devastating info sinks in, she is probably not so forgiving. Don’t be stunned if she will get her personal again with a fling of her personal, which could sign the top of your relationship anyway. Possibly you secretly worry this, and it’s the actual cause your head is so tousled.
Twenty could be very younger to quiet down, and it doesn’t sound as if you’re able to dedicate your self to only one associate. You say you recurrently get advances from older girls, so what makes you so certain you’d by no means do something related once more? Let’s face it, you weren’t in search of love and romance along with your mum’s associates; it was intercourse pure and easy, and by the sound of it, you loved each minute.
Possibly tears have helped you wriggle off the hook this time, however it’s typically the case that after you’ve crossed the road and received away with it, the second time is simpler – and each time after that.
If that haunted feeling is real, some counselling might assist type your head out. Within the meantime, it will in all probability be kindest to chop your girlfriend free, and let this drama subside earlier than you take into account dedication once more.
Laura is a counsellor and columnist.
Obtained a intercourse and relationship dilemma? To get knowledgeable recommendation, ship your downside to [email protected]
Do you’ve got a narrative to share?
Get in contact by emailing [email protected].