Divorcing the Identical Man Twice: My Uncommon Identify Jinxes My Perpetually Marriage

REMARRYING an ex is a uncommon occasion and divorcing the identical individual twice much more uncommon – with only a 0.018 per cent probability of it occurring.

However a mum-of-two from Western-super-Mare has finished simply that – becoming a member of the likes of Liz Taylor and Elon Musk in and unique membership.

Bridget Jones’ love life has been as dramatic as her namesake’sCredit score: SWNS

She and husband Wealthy at their second wedding ceremony in 2009Credit score: Alley Einstein

And he or she places her romantic hiccups all the way down to her title – Bridget Jones.

Bridget, 51, is now ready for her second divorce from husband Wealthy to be finalised in December.

“I met, married and divorced Wealthy after which remarried him and now we’re divorcing once more. 

It’s time for a brand new chapter in each our lives and we’re nonetheless buddies,” Bridget tells The Solar.

“Mates inform me it’s a storyline worthy of my namesake Bridget Jones’s Diary. 

“Others say I’m a modern-day Liz Taylor who married, divorced, remarried and divorced Richard Burton, or billionaire Elon Musk who twice married and divorced Talulah Riley.

“Individuals are gobsmacked once I inform them. We by no means got down to be like Liz and Richard however I needed to do what was finest for me in my fifties and it made me stronger.

“I’m proud I’m nonetheless buddies with my ex-ex husband… That was essential to us each.”

The couple married youngerCredit score: Alley Einstein

The probabilities of a pair marrying and divorcing twice are rarer than being hit by a bus at a zebra crossing.

In keeping with analysis, between 10-15 per cent of {couples} reconcile after they separate and about 6 per cent marry one another once more after they divorce. 

Of those that remarry one another, 30 per cent go on to divorce a second time which equates to 0.018 per cent general.

“After I heard the statistics I used to be shocked. We all know it’s the correct factor for us. I’ve no regrets,” says Bridget.

Younger love

Bridget, was simply 17 and a glass collector when she met Wealthy, then 20, who was working as a bouncer in a nightclub in Weston-super-Mare. 

“When Wealthy requested me out I used to be standoffish. I fancied him however I used to be conscious of bouncers and their reputations as girls males,” she says. 

“I stated sure to the date, hoping for the most effective, anticipating the worst. What occurred was younger love.”

After solely two weeks of relationship the pair determined to marry,

“Richard’s firm was transferring to Manchester and I provided to maneuver with him,” she says. 

“Richard responded by saying, ‘I suppose if I ask you to marry me, you’d say no,” anticipating me to giggle it off, as an alternative of claiming sure.

“4 months earlier than the marriage we found I used to be anticipating our first youngster and on the thirty first of August 1991, I stated ‘I do’.

“My mom in regulation gave me the marriage gown as a present and it value greater than £500 which in these days was some huge cash. It had a excessive lace collar and sheer lace sleeves.

“It was an enormous church wedding ceremony and we had 80 friends. Fortunately, my morning illness stayed away. 

“When Richard put my wedding ceremony ring on my finger I by no means imagined this wasn’t a endlessly marriage.” 

Bridget’s gown was a present from her mother-in-lawCredit score: Alley Einstein

An excessive amount of too younger

Being married so rapidly and so younger was a problem.

“Wanting again we have been so younger and our son Ricky, now 31, was born 5 months later, in February 1992 so we went from husband and spouse to mum and pop actually quick.

“These necessary early twenties whenever you occasion together with your mates and date have been all of a sudden consumed with nappies, feeding schedules and invoice paying. It’s sufficient to emphasize mature {couples} however it was our undoing.”

The couple welcomed their second youngster Ryan, now 29, in August 1994.

Bridget says the pair began bickering over work, cash and every day chores. 

“We have been immature and never able to quiet down. Marriage is difficult, working and elevating two youngsters below three is even more durable in such a brief time frame.”

The couple separated in 1996, and Bridget remembers signing her decree nisi for divorce on the day Princess Diana died, 31 August 1997 – sarcastically the couple’s wedding ceremony anniversary.

“Regardless of our incapability to stay married we vowed to be nice dad and mom. The boys lived with me and noticed their dad usually,” she says.

In keeping with Bridget, she and Richard went by what she calls “that horrible divorce section of not speaking.” 

“Divorce is painful and terrible and with youngsters you continue to have to speak and see one another. There is no such thing as a method round it. However we vowed to place the youngsters forward of our emotions,” she says.

Bridget vowed to remain buddiesCredit score: SWNS

Rekindled romance

With two small boys to co-parent the exes have been spending time collectively for his or her youngsters’s sake, maintaining true to their vow. 

“We went forwards and backwards to one another’s homes with the youngsters. We did our bit in one another’s properties choosing up toys, tidying and co-parenting in a optimistic method,” she says.

“Quickly Richard and I began speaking correctly and the boys have been always nagging us to dwell collectively once more.

“We defined we have been nice buddies and neither thought-about getting again collectively.”

In 2000 Richard received a visit for 2 on the Eurostar and invited Bridget.

“We went collectively and had an incredible time. That’s after we rekindled our romance,” she says.

“We began occurring dates and Richard, then agreed transfer again in collectively to see how issues went.

“We have been taking child steps and it made sense to share one home, even when I did have my very own room. Not working two properties meant we may lower your expenses and spend it on the boys.”

Bridget determined to take management of her personal future, in 2004, utilizing the Leap Yr as an excuse.

“I despatched Richard a Valentine’s day card saying: ‘You + Me + a seashore someplace – let’s get remarried’,”’ she stated. 

“I may inform Richard was shocked and thrilled however we each knew we had baggage. In any case we’d been married and divorced to one another earlier than.

“However we’d matured, I used to be older and wiser. I knew what I needed in life and I knew I needed him. He felt the identical.” 

Richard accepted Bridget’s proposal and their buddies have been flabbergasted. 

She says: “For many individuals it was an enormous shock. It wasn’t one thing they’d ever heard of.

“They weren’t certain if it was a joke and so they needed us to be comfortable however in some circumstances mutual buddies had taken sides and they also have been confused. However most have been extremely comfortable – it was a fairy story ending.”

In October 2009, the couple remarried in Florida, on the Royal Chapel throughout a visit to Disneyworld.

“I selected a white wedding ceremony gown with a brilliant full tulle skirt and fitted high – fairy-tale like – and really completely different from my first wedding ceremony gown. My gown this time round value £450,” she says.

The couple’s son Ryan gave his mum away and Ricky was his dad’s finest man.

“The Royal Marriage ceremony Chapel was beautiful and we had three kin who flew out as a result of they needed to be a part of our non-public wedding ceremony.

“This time, when Richard slipped on my ring, I used to be satisfied this was endlessly.” 

The couple’s youngsters Ryan, left, and Ricky have been by their facet for the second wedding ceremonyCredit score: Alley Einstein

Bridget says she believed it was endlesslyCredit score: Alley Einstein

For a few years, the couple couldn’t have been happier, second time round. 

“We have been mature, we bought on so a lot better, the intercourse was nice and we now have a beautiful household,” she says. 

The pair had dated different individuals after the primary divorce and realised their timing had been off once they initially wed. 

“I used to be happy with my resolution. Typically individuals want time to develop and uncover themselves and if youngsters are concerned there’s an added purpose to present it one other go.” 

Nonetheless by 2016 Bridget admits the couple, now based mostly in Bristol, have been rising aside.

“The youngsters had left residence. Work was our focus together with our beautiful German shepherd canines.

“I began feeling depressed and realised we’d grow to be finest buddies with out even realising it.

“There was increasingly distance and bickering. I used to be going through turning fifty and needed various things.

“Lockdown hit in 2020 and we have been all of a sudden on high of one another. Regardless of valiant efforts to avoid wasting our second time round marriage, I knew we would have liked to divorce.

“We had plans in 2022 to journey to Florida in 2022 to rejoice my fiftieth birthday and our son thirtieth birthday however in January 2021 I spoke to Wealthy and we cancelled them

“As a substitute I defined to Richard I felt we would have liked time aside. He was shocked.”

Ryan gave his mum away and Ricky was finest manCredit score: Alley Einstein

In February 2021 Bridget moved in together with her mum to consider the long run.

“We did strive one other reunion in April 2021 however trying again it was a last goodbye,” she says.

“Second time round divorce for us meant we have been respectful and type. I simply needed sufficient cash to get a small two bed room home.”

In June 2022, Bridget purchased a £242,000 two bed room home in Weston-super-Mare.

“Richard has our canines however we nonetheless make joint selections about them. I pop over to Richard’s for a cuppa and we converse typically.”

However Bridget admits telling household and buddies was even more durable the second time round.

“Some couldn’t perceive why we have been divorcing once more and others bought it,” she says.

“Richard’s relationship somebody and I’m simply being single. On-line relationship is a nightmare.

“I’m targeted on my fifties and my job. What we had was wonderful and our friendship now’s sensible too.

“I do giggle when individuals examine me to Liz Taylor or Elon Musk. I by no means thought this could ever occur.

“A very powerful factor is to stay buddies with my double-divorce ex.

“Perhaps this Bridget Jones simply wants time to plan her subsequent single journey.”