Former Religious Christian Turns Dungeon Dominator.

I got here out this June as an expert male dominant, introducing the world to my dominant alter-ego, ‘Mister Saul’ (Image: @laurenj.captures/Jackson King)

Charlie was splayed out on a sling within the dungeon – a mix of nerves and pleasure, however prepared and keen.

This was one in every of my first purchasers as an expert dominant and we had been nearing the top of a three-hour session.

In our conversations main as much as the meet, they’d expressed a want to let go and give up management to somebody with a ‘agency hand’.

And there Charlie was earlier than me, able to succumb to that submissive state of bliss. Just a few moments later, there have been tears falling softly from their eyes, good tears – the sort you cry when there’s been a launch.

Then it was over. They hit the bathe whereas I cleaned the gear, taking care to depart the employed dungeon area as we’d discovered it.

Once they returned, we embraced and spoke just a little throughout aftercare: a interval of bodily and emotional care given after an intense BDSM encounter. ‘You’re good at this,’ Charlie instructed me, and shortly it was time to lock up the dungeon and half methods.

How do you discover out you’re ‘good at this’, one may ask. And the way do you turn out to be somebody that individuals pay for such companies?

Properly, my story has a shocking starting: the church.

From my earliest years, I used to be a great Christian lady. Not solely did I’m going to all of the bible research and youth teams, I additionally started main church companies and preaching in my early twenties.

I’d at all times fantasised and thought of kink (Image: Jackson King)

But, beneath these efforts at holiness and worthiness lay deeply repressed components of my identification.

By the age of 25 in 2016, the very first thing that had risen to the floor was my sexuality – I wasn’t straight, I used to be bi. Shortly after, I accepted that I wasn’t a lady both, however a trans man.

Naturally, these popping out moments had been accompanied by a lot deconstruction and reflection on the oppressive, shame-filled beliefs I’d imbibed as an evangelical Christian. Importantly, I started reframing how I noticed my physique – from a lowly and deceitful flesh-suit of sin, to one thing I used to be studying to take heed to and belief.

One of many issues my physique was drawing me to was BDSM, which I started to discover – within the years since popping out – with companions, lovers, and pals. However this want didn’t transpire from skinny air.

At the same time as a great evangelical lady, I’d at all times fantasised and thought of kink. Now I used to be merely giving myself permission to discover it. 

Opposite to the declare by anti-kink people who BDSM is merely a malicious program for sexual violence, I found inside it moments of therapeutic and catharsis – each as a submissive and dominant.

Notably because the latter, issues felt intuitive, instinctive – and admittedly – it was an honour to be trusted by others of their most susceptible moments. That stated, it’s one factor to have these encounters and connections in your private life – fairly one other to speak overtly about it and supply it as a public service.

My complete life, I’d performed it protected – I prayed onerous, studied onerous, received an English diploma on the College of Oxford, and I labored onerous constructing an expert profession as a copywriter. This stuff connoted outward success and respectability, however in addition they made me depressing.

So I sacked off the well-paid profession firstly of 2023 to turn out to be an underpaid freelance journalist.

Then, with the encouragement of my kink-positive therapist, I got here out this June as an expert male dominant, introducing the world to my dominant alter-ego, ‘Mister Saul’ (and including one other much-needed stream of revenue!).

Whereas there are many BDSM practitioners who supply courses and training on the subject, there’s not precisely an outlined path to changing into an expert dominant. At first, this was a barrier to me – how may I make the leap from being a dominant in my personal life, to being an expert one? 

I ended up speaking to a few established execs for recommendation on get began, promote, pricing and extra. By way of gear, I’d curated a good tool-kit from domming folks through the years (together with a flogger initially from Backstreet, London’s final leatherbar!) however most dungeon areas accessible to rent additionally include loads of toys.

The crucial factor to assume by means of earlier than going professional was security, reminiscent of realizing I had the expertise and skillset to, for instance, flog somebody with the right approach. In addition to present a sturdy scene negotiation course of (the place wishes, flip ons and limits are mentioned forward of a session) and consent framework for purchasers.

With the sensible stuff addressed, the remainder fell into place. Being a dominant entails technical abilities and data, however it’s additionally about with the ability to create an intense and unforgettable expertise. And I’m unsure that may be taught!

After promoting on social media, I booked in some preliminary purchasers. And my very first paid-for BDSM scene was a collaboration with a well-established skilled dominant.

After a number of hours of heavy affect play (together with spanking, flogging and belting) I bear in mind heading residence exhausted, however content material – and never simply because I’d been given a wad of money for my work.

I’ve grown immeasurably as a dominant since then.

Publicly embracing your sexuality as a trans individual is usually fraught with complexity (Image: Jackson King)

In the way in which that many trans folks – with the intention to select their very own pleasure and embodiment – settle for the stigma of their existence, I settle for the stigma hooked up to the road of labor I do for my very own fulfilment.

On prime of this, to be trans in our present local weather is such a profound act of going towards the grain. I think about my very own transition gave me the metaphorical balls to embrace a really non-typical vocation.

But publicly embracing your sexuality as a trans individual is usually fraught with complexity.

On the one hand, our our bodies are oversexualised or fetishised because the ‘better of each’. On the opposite, they’re routinely dehumanised, scrutinised, and topic to violence of each type. 

For me, the idea of ‘trans pleasure’ usually celebrates transness in a really desexualised approach.

Domming two submissives without delay and bringing them to orgasm concurrently is my trans pleasure, or higher but – trans hedonism. As is making somebody miles away from me climax with simply the correct phrases over voice-note.

Trans folks deserve the liberty to discover and categorical their sexuality inside a consensual framework like every cisgender grownup. Which is why, whereas I tackle purchasers of all sexualities and genders, I believe it’s necessary to be a publicly trans dominant.

Naturally, for trans purchasers, I search to supply a gender-euphoric expertise, and for cis purchasers, an opportunity to increase their horizons.

Yow will discover out extra about Jackson’s work as ‘Mister Saul’ on his web site right here or comply with his different work through his Linktree right here.