“Ignore Matt Rife: Your Clit Dimension Is Good”

No Matt, our our bodies aren’t a joke (Image: Stiff Socks Podcast)

Hairless, tight, tucked. Typically, it looks like ladies can by no means escape judgement.

After Tiger Woods handed his competitor a tampon, presumably as a result of he ‘performed like a woman’, ladies the world over took half in a collective eye roll.

And now, Matt Rife is the newest public determine to make a ‘joke’ on the expense of girls.

The American comedian appeared on the Stiff Socks Podcast, the place he had some fairly selection issues to say concerning the clitoris.

He instructed hosts Trevor Wallace and Michael Blaustein: ‘Am I purported to fuck you or thumb wrestle you. I don’t love an enormous clit.

‘I don’t need to look down and really feel like God left the tag on you. I don’t need your pussy to appear like the gum from Sausage Occasion.’

Sigh.

Whether or not it’s feedback about ‘gross’ intervals or gummies to make our vaginas odor higher (PSA: your vagina is supposed to odor of vagina), ladies are already coping with rather a lot in relation to their anatomy.

And Zoya Ali, a intercourse educator and scientist specialising in gynaecological points, says it’s jokes like Matt’s that may be detrimental to feminine well being.

Zoya instructed Metro.co.uk: ‘Rife perpetuates the notion that girls should conform to an impractical and unachievable magnificence supreme to be thought of interesting.

‘The query arises as to why we proceed to impose such requirements on ladies, and endorse the objectification of people, whereas valuing them solely based mostly on their bodily look. 

‘Such feedback can probably negatively impression a person’s psychological and physiological wellbeing.’

Whereas some might even see the feedback as trivial, they contribute to a wider feeling of disgrace round ladies’s our bodies.

In truth, in response to a latest authorities survey, 65% of underneath 18-year-olds believed there was an ‘supreme’ physique sort and over six in 10 ladies felt negatively about their our bodies.

Zoya mentioned: ‘Billion-dollar industries thrive on capitalising on these insecurities by selling merchandise like vaginal tighteners, whiteners, and fresheners, promising to make one’s genitalia “regular”.

‘Nonetheless, there is no such thing as a normal definition of “regular”, as each vulva is exclusive, coming in varied shapes, sizes, and shades. 

‘Your vagina isn’t purported to odor like flowers, style like sweet or appear like the filtered photographs you would possibly see in porn.’

The internalised disgrace and exterior pressures could cause folks to resort to surgical procedure.

Zoya mentioned: ‘It’s regarding that there’s a reported enhance in folks, together with youngsters, choosing labiaplasty with none medical want.

‘It’s fascinating to notice that Rife goes on to make feedback about his accomplice’s surgical enhancements, mentioning that they need to look pure, and the way it could make him really feel insecure about his personal physique.’

However isn’t everybody allowed to have a sexual desire? Properly, that’s not the difficulty at hand.

Zoya mentioned: ‘Whereas having preferences and sights to bodily appearances is pure, people should vocalise their decisions with out invalidating others or fueling the tradition of physique shaming and discrimination.’

Matt Rife on “Open Mic” Episode 102 (Image: Trae Patton/NBC/NBCU Photograph Financial institution through Getty Photographs)

And making ladies really feel insecure about their our bodies will hinder males within the bed room too. You’ll be able to’t really pleasure a girl in the event you’ve made her really feel insecure about her physique.

‘Feeling insecure about your physique could cause somebody to really feel nervous and confused, extra probably making a barrier to intimacy and sexual pleasure. 

‘I usually get requested by ladies about easy methods to enhance how their vulva seems, why their labia are so large, why their inside thighs are too darkish, and easy methods to cope with the perceived odor. The main focus is normally on easy methods to make their accomplice really feel glad, and the give attention to their very own pleasure usually takes a backseat,’ mentioned Zoya.

‘Statistics concerning the orgasm hole present that heterosexual ladies usually get the shorter finish of the stick in relation to pleasure in intimate relationships.

‘Intercourse ought to really feel liberating, and nobody ought to accept somebody who makes them really feel insecure and ashamed about their physique.

‘Belief, communication, mutual consent and respect are important for wholesome and pleasurable sexual experiences.’

She added: ‘Understanding and accepting that our our bodies come in several shapes, sizes, and shades could be a complicated course of involving unlearning what we have now been conditioned to imagine and making area for self-exploration about our perceptions of intimacy and pleasure.’

Matt Rife has been approached for remark.

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