Stefan-Pierre Tomlin was topped Tinder’s most eligible bachelor (Image: Luke Johnson)
I ALWAYS thought that by the point I used to be 32, I’d have settled down. That I’d have a spouse, two children and a pleasant huge home in Surrey. However life didn’t fairly go that manner.
It was practically a decade in the past when a piece good friend instructed me concerning the relationship app Tinder. I used to be working in Harrods in London on the time and I’d by no means had any hassle assembly ladies. My colleague mentioned Tinder was enjoyable and that I’d do effectively on it, so I signed up and shortly obtained addicted.
By 2017, I’d had 14,600 right-swipes and obtained an e mail from Tinder saying I used to be on a shortlist of the 30 most-fancied folks within the UK.
I did an interview and photoshoot with them to have fun, and some months later I used to be instructed I used to be the preferred man on Tinder. That’s when issues went loopy. I obtained greater than 1,000 messages a day. I attempted to reply as many as I may however didn’t have the time to open half of them.
I keep in mind being on a prepare from London to Kent to go to my mum quickly after and everybody had their telephones and newspapers out, studying about me being topped Mr Tinder. Once I obtained off the prepare, folks requested me for selfies.
I beloved the eye and being ‘well-known’ – it was so thrilling, particularly as a result of the women at college who had by no means paid me any consideration began popping up in Messenger, desirous to be buddies.
Stefan-Pierre began to benefit from the excessive life after he was topped Tinder’s most matched life (Image: Matt Keeble/Dave Benett/Getty Pictures)
Abruptly I used to be everywhere in the web and began getting requested to go on relationship exhibits together with Celebs Go Relationship and, most just lately, Written In The Stars. The programmes had been nice for my modelling profession however I actually hoped they might assist me discover love.
Whereas it was wonderful to be topped Mr Tinder, I had no clue about what would include it. And it’s humorous as a result of what folks usually don’t realise is that I’ve struggled with confidence.
My hair began receding on the age of twenty-two, and that was actually arduous. I attempted all the things – I used my mum’s eyebrow pencil to attract within the strains. I even tried a wig for some time.
Stefan-Pierre usually walks the pink carpet at premieres (Image: Stuart C. Wilson/Getty Pictures)
It wasn’t till I just lately obtained a hair transplant at Dr Heal in Turkey that I can say I lastly really feel proud of myself. I went to Portugal afterwards and it was the primary time in years I may bounce into the pool with out worrying about my hair.
Now I’m discovering that it’s arduous for women to see me for who I’m. They like the concept of me however they don’t realise what my life-style entails. Having the title Mr Tinder isn’t ultimate for a woman who’s in search of Mr Proper.
Once you become involved in a relationship with me, you get all of the perks, the glitz and glamour – the flowery eating places, the great holidays and the Insta-fame – however there’s a positive line between work and private life. I attempt to maintain them separate however it doesn’t all the time work.
‘I’m prepared for one thing critical. I need to quiet down and focus on having a household,’ says Stefan-Pierre (Image: Luke Johnson)
However Stefan-Pierre has struggled with confidence previously, having misplaced his hair when he was simply 22 (Image: Dave J Hogan/Getty Pictures)
I’ve dated just a few celebrities as a result of, until you’re on this business, you don’t actually perceive what it’s like. Women who’ve regular jobs will be overwhelmed – the approach to life includes lots of travelling, and I’m additionally papped, which might trigger arguments. Once I’m out and about, I get recognised and have lots of photos taken with different folks, as a result of I’m a pleasant man. That may trigger jealousy.
Some weeks I’m out each night time – there’ll be premieres thrice per week, dinners and different occasions. Or I’ll be on the health club within the night, so it’s fairly full-on. That’s all outdoors my precise job of working my expertise and advertising company, Blue Tick Advertising and marketing, which I’ve simply arrange.
I don’t have a lot time for an evening in with Netflix or making a meal. There will be quiet weeks however there are additionally days after I don’t have the time to eat, and that may be an enormous adjustment for any ladies who come into my life. Previously, issues have faltered due to that.
Stefan is now in search of a girl he can share his life with (Image: Alan Chapman/Dave Benett/WireImage)
I’ve had two critical relationships since turning into Mr Tinder and I’ve been in love. However typically issues don’t work out. I nonetheless need to meet that particular somebody. I’ve had plenty of enjoyable however it may be a lonely world. I need to be a part of a group, to have somebody to share experiences with.
I’m prepared for one thing critical. I need to quiet down and focus on having a household. I would like somebody I can share the massive experiences and little moments with – somebody to get up subsequent to and to cook dinner a meal for or go for a stroll with.
Am I single now? Previous experiences have taught me to not say an excessive amount of. However I’m completely happy, having plenty of enjoyable and I’m eager for the long run.
Whereas it was wonderful to be named Mr Tinder, I had no clue about what would include it. Folks don’t realise I’ve struggled with my confidence.
As instructed to Sarah Ingram.